Feeling Happy and Strong
How you feel on the inside is unique to you. If there are twenty people in a room watching a film, each person when questioned will be unique in their response to the film even though there will be areas of agreement. What determines how you feel in any situation is determined by the previous experiences you have had in like situations and your unique genetic inheritance. When you habitually feel ‘bad’ ‘down’ or frightened in particular situations it will usually be because some aspect of your unique history has caused you to associate negative feeling with those situations. You may be aware of negative reactions of this sort and give yourself a stern lecture on the need to respond more positively. However if the original experience happened when you were young and it was a really difficult one for you, you probably find no matter how much you want to respond differently, you still continue to feel ‘bad’ or ‘down’ regardless of what seems logical. Fortunately how you react to situations can be changed, at the level of the original experience so you can start having positive feelings about situations that were previously negative for you.
Case Studies
Joanna came to see Sandy because she felt she should be happy and she wasn’t. She was married to a man she loved, had two beautiful children and a home which was the envy of her friends. But she never really enjoyed herself or felt happy. She frequently felt very down indeed and kept insisting there was something wrong with her that she couldn’t appreciate her good fortune.
Sandy scanned her energy field and could see many areas of darkness and grey cloudiness representing difficult past experiences that had influenced Joanna to believe she didn’t deserve any good fortune and that she was not a good person. Growing up in a strict community that emphasized sin as a blot on each person’s character from birth she had often been scolded for natural childish actions and told she was a ‘bad girl’.
Sandy did a clearing of these areas of cloudiness and darkness in her aura, letting the natural brightness and clarity of her soul energy shine through. She also asked Joanna to place healing crystals at strategic points in her home and asked her to begin each day with a prayer of thanks for the beauty of the gifts she brought into the world. Joanna started to wake up feeling calm and peaceful which was really new for her. At first she felt awkward giving thanks for her own gifts because she had never thought of herself in those terms but the more she honoured herself the more she found she let dark thoughts of her ‘badness’ slip away. She started to sing as she went about her daily life and found she moved differently and had a lot more energy.
Tom came to see Sandy because he often felt angry and was ashamed of reacting that way. He also felt anxious in lots of situations and worried about how things would work out. He wanted to be able to relax and go out and enjoy himself. He especially wanted to find a partner and felt his reactions to the people around him were limiting his chances of meeting a woman with whom he could be happy.
Sandy took a careful history and found he had grown up in a family in which both his parents had been very busy and had in effect really required him and his siblings to look after themselves rather than the other way around. It was very hard for him to get his parent’s attention when needed, even when he was really young. He got used to looking after himself and helping to look after his brothers and sisters. She decided to use Hypnosis to help him, after she found it was easy for him to go into a hypnotic state.
When he was in a hypnotic trance Sandy took him back to a time in his childhood when he had felt anxious, just as he did in the present. She got him to imagine his grown-up self being there and helping him, as a child, deal with what was happening. She repeated this procedure in relation to all the feelings Tom was experiencing which were making it uncomfortable for him in the present. She also reinforced this work by reminding him, while he was in a trance, on the many professional and personal capabilities he had as an adult.
Tom found he was feeling significantly more even tempered, in fact he was surprised when any of his friends commented on his new sunnier outlook because he almost couldn’t remember it ever being any different. He was certainly aware that he felt strong and confident in his work and socially. At the time Sandy stopped seeing him, after 15 sessions, he had just started seeing a woman he liked though he felt he deserved a really good relationship and he wanted to develop any relationship slowly so he had some understanding of how he and his potential partner handled being together.